MoneyAccess preserved
Boundaries = Loss
You change the scope without changing the fee.
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People-Pleasing Codes
The rules that make another person's comfort feel like your responsibility
People-pleasing can be less about being nice than about what disagreement, disappointment or another person's discomfort appears to threaten.
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Approval and belonging
Codes that make acceptance depend on being easy, useful or agreeable.
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Love = Loss of Self
You enjoy closeness, then feel a sudden need to create distance.
Open CodeBoundariesAccess preserved
No = Loss of Love
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Sacrifice = Love
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
Open CodebelongingAccess preserved
Wealth = Loss of Love
Downplaying or concealing financial progress from family
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Love = Approval
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Discounts = Love
Avoids direct financial decisions and stays in short-term safety behaviors.
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Saying no
Codes that turn a limit into selfishness, rejection or loss.
MoneyAccess preserved
Charging = Greed
Underprices, delays asks, or overdelivers to secure safety through approval.
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Self-Investment = Selfish
Deferring personal development, equipment, or support indefinitely
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Boundaries = Greed
You apologise while asking for the agreed payment.
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Receiving = Selfish
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Saying No = Cruel
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Being Taken Care Of = Unsafe
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Desire = Selfish
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Preventing conflict
Codes that make another person's discomfort feel dangerous.
AngerAccess preserved
Anger = Loss of Love
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Conflict = Rejection
Avoids clear emotional asks and defaults to protective patterns over direct connection.
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Money = Conflict
Avoiding price conversations and negotiation
Open CodeLoveAccess preserved
Vulnerability = Danger
Avoids clear emotional asks and defaults to protective patterns over direct connection.
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Boundaries = Danger
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Money = Danger
You make a strong month sound smaller when somebody asks how business is going.
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Price = Judgement
Underprices, delays asks, or overdelivers to secure safety through approval.
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Carrying other people
Codes that assign responsibility for needs and outcomes that are not entirely yours.
MoneyAccess preserved
Self-Sacrifice = Worth
You agree to the urgent request before checking what it will cost you.
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Receiving = Burden
Declining offers of support, payment, or help
Open CodeOver-ResponsibilityAccess preserved
Help = Burden
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Scarcity = Responsible
Self-imposed income limits that have no financial basis
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Receiving = Responsibility
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Receiving Help = Loss of Control
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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Responsibility = Mine
Avoids situations that would test this pattern directly.
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